The results of a recent survey conducted by family law organisation Resolution show that 82% of young people would rather their parents split up than stay together for their sake. So if you and your partner do decide to divorce, how do you protect your children?
‘We must remember that our goal as parents is not to prevent our children from experiencing any stress, but to help make the stressors our children face moderate enough so they can tolerate and overcome them,’ says Diane M. Berry, author of Child Friendly Divorce.
With this in mind, how can we reduce the impact that divorce has on our children?
Trying mediation before considering the litigation route
With mediation now compulsory for most couples looking to resolve issues with finances or children issues, this is an excellent opportunity to try to keep the process as short and amicable as possible. Although this may not always be possible, it is a useful and facilitated way to try to reach decisions together.
Keep communication flowing
You may not be in a position to communicate effectively with your ex, but being able to talk to your children about the situation is key. They may not understand exactly what is happening and your reassurance and guidance through the process will be of great comfort to them.
Look after yourself
In order to look after others, you have to be in a place to do so yourself. Divorce is stressful and can take its toll on your health and well-being. It’s important to take some time out once in a while to relax and reboot.
Defend them from the drama
Suddenly having two different homes could seem strange at first, so creating warm and comfortable environments is essential. Try not to dwell or focus on the divorce or what is happening at your ex’s home and instead focus on activities and spending quality time together.
At Vines Legal, we have ample experience supporting families through divorce and separation. If you would like advice regarding divorce, separation or parental rights, book your free consultation on 01246 555 610.